That famous, fictionally prophetic catch phrase from the TV show “Heroes” has more truth to it than you might have originally thought.
In a world where moaning, critique, trolling, reviews, evictions, voting off and numerous other forms of judgement is the norm – we could all use a cheerleader in our life. Someone who encourages us unconditionally. The person who knows that when you are asking for an opinion, you are really looking for support. That person who encourages you to be better; who literally gives you courage and empowers you.
It seems that everyone today has an opinion and is not afraid to use it.
In some ways, this is the beauty of the “like” button in Facebook. You just press “like” – it is binary; all or nothing. There are no varying levels of “like” Imagine if Facebook actually implemented a “dislike” button as has been suggested. Or worse – a star rating system.. “I give your status update three out of five stars“.. why? “Because I can and I don’t want you to get big-headed“… but why not?
This is what is happening to us.. our support for each other is becoming more and more qualified. Society is encouraging us to be a little positive and a lot of negative in increasing ways. Constructive criticism is a better form of criticism but it is still criticism all the same. Necessary many times? Yes. Every time? No.
Did you know that it takes three positive interactions to counteract one negative interaction? Think about that – it means that you need to be three times more positive than you are negative when dealing with friends, family and colleagues.
I know that I would not be where I am without the blind encouragement of friends in the past. I know it. I still summon the memories of those moments from time to time when I need a boost. These cheerleaders have been essential to my life and I hope there are still enough left to help others in the same way. Or perhaps, better yet, we all give cheerleading a try – perhaps we might not save the world, but we could certainly make it a better place.
Stay positive. Go team.